ENGLISH-SPEAKING IFS THERAPY · ONLINE ACROSS SWEDEN, THE UK, EUROPE & ASIA
Online IFS Therapy for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)
For sensitive, deep-feeling adults who are tired of being told they’re “too much”.
Feeling everything this deeply can be exhausting.
Sometimes it feels like you notice everything – a shift in someone’s energy, the hum of the lights, the tension in a room.
Others see someone thoughtful and capable. Inside, you’re often running on empty.
Busy places, noise and long social days leave you drained, and you need far more time to recover than the people around you.
You pick up on other people’s feelings so easily that it’s hard to tell where theirs end and yours begin.
Your mind keeps processing long after the moment has passed – replaying conversations, weighing every option, struggling to switch off.
Criticism or conflict stays with you for days, even when you tell yourself it “shouldn’t”.
You’ve spent years trying to toughen up, and part of you still wonders whether something is wrong with you.
Your sensitivity isn’t a flaw to fix. It’s a way of being that deserves to be understood.
IFS Therapy Helps You Work With Your Sensitivity, Not Against It
Being highly sensitive isn’t a part of you – it’s how your whole system is built. But growing up sensitive in a world that rewards toughness often means your parts learn to cope by people-pleasing, perfecting, shutting down or pushing through. In IFS, we get to know these parts with curiosity rather than judgement.
Together, we can:
Get to know the parts that manage overwhelm, so you can find calm without shutting down.
Untangle your own feelings from the ones you absorb from others.
Set boundaries and rest without guilt or fear of letting people down.
Soften the inner critic that tells you you’re “too sensitive”.
Heal the experiences that taught you your sensitivity was a problem, and set down the burdens you’ve carried since.
IFS gives you space to stop fighting your sensitivity – and to start trusting it.
What Makes My Approach Different
I’m highly sensitive myself, so I know first-hand how much energy it takes to live in a world that moves faster and louder than you do.
Many of my clients are HSPs, and I’ve seen how often standard therapy misses what sensitivity actually feels like from the inside.
Too often you’re told to stop overthinking, grow a thicker skin or simply push through. For highly sensitive people, advice like this can leave you feeling more ashamed, not less.
IFS takes a different approach.
It works with the depth you already have. Your capacity to reflect, feel and notice nuance becomes a strength in the work, not an obstacle.
Sensitivity often travels with other ways of being different.
Many of my HSP clients are also autistic, ADHD or gifted – or aren’t sure which labels fit. You don’t need to have it figured out. We start with your experience, not a category.
That opens space to connect with yourself, build closer relationships with others, and create a life that fits you.
Common Challenges My Highly Sensitive Clients Bring to Therapy
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Noise, crowds, busy schedules and constant demands can push your nervous system past its limits, leaving you irritable, foggy or needing to hide away.
We’ll get to know the parts that try to manage overwhelm – the ones that push through and the ones that pull you away – and find gentler ways to look after your system.
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Deep processing is a strength, but it can tip into looping thoughts, second-guessing and difficulty making decisions.
We’ll work with the parts that worry and analyse, helping them trust that they don’t have to hold everything on their own.
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Because you feel other people’s emotions so strongly, it can seem easier to keep the peace than to disappoint someone. Over time, this leaves little room for your own needs.
In therapy, we’ll meet the parts that put others first and build the confidence to say no without guilt.
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Many HSPs keep going long after their energy has run out, especially at work. Burnout can show up as exhaustion, numbness or losing joy in things you used to love.
We’ll help the parts that drive you to overextend find new ways to support you, so you can move towards rest and a pace that fits you.
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You may love deeply and also feel hurt deeply – by conflict, distance or small shifts in someone’s mood.
We’ll work with the parts that long for closeness and the ones that fear rejection, so you can feel steadier and more secure in your relationships.
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Many HSPs grow up hearing they’re “too sensitive” or “too much”. Over time, those messages can turn inward as shame and harsh self-criticism.
Together, we’ll meet the parts that carry these beliefs and help you relate to your sensitivity with more compassion.
How to get started with therapy
Starting therapy can feel like a big step. Here's what the process looks like, so you know what to expect.
1. Get in touch
Fill in the contact form with a few lines about what's bringing you to therapy. You don't need to have the right words for it; a rough sense is enough. I'll reply by email with a link to book your initial meeting with me.
2. Meet for a first session
We'll meet online on Zoom for our first session. This is a chance for you to tell me a bit more about what you're looking for, ask any questions about IFS or how I work, and get a feel for whether we're a good fit.
We may spend the first session just talking, or we might also start with some IFS work and get to know a part of you that you've been curious about. There's no commitment to continue.
3. Begin weekly sessions
If we feel it's right to work together, we'll find a regular day and time for weekly sessions. Having a set weekly time gives the work a steady rhythm and gives you a reliable space that's yours.
FAQs
Whether you’re sure you’re highly sensitive or just recognise yourself in some of the traits, you probably have questions about what therapy looks like, how I work, and whether IFS is a good fit. Below I’ve answered some of the most common questions highly sensitive clients ask.
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High sensitivity (known in research as sensory processing sensitivity) is a trait first described by psychologist Elaine Aron. It isn’t a diagnosis or a disorder. Researchers estimate that around one in five people are highly sensitive, and some studies suggest more.
It’s often summed up with the acronym DOES: Depth of processing, Overstimulation, Emotional responsiveness and empathy, and Sensitivity to subtleties.
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Of course. Many of my clients come to me unsure whether they’re highly sensitive, or feeling that only some of the traits describe them. You don’t need a label to start – what matters is your experience.
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Many highly sensitive clients come to me after therapy that focused on managing symptoms or pushing past their limits. With IFS, we slow down and get curious about the parts of you that feel overwhelmed, anxious or self-critical, so that change comes from understanding rather than force.
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No. We always go at your pace. If starting with trauma feels overwhelming, we begin with what feels safe, like current struggles or daily challenges. We only go deeper when you’re ready.
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No, although they can overlap. Sensory sensitivity and needing time to recover are common to all three, and some people are both highly sensitive and autistic or ADHD. If you’re trying to work out what fits, my blog post “Am I Autistic, ADHD, Highly Sensitive, or Gifted?” explores the overlap.
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Yes. I offer online therapy in English for clients in Sweden, the UK and rest of Europe, as well as across Asia.
If you’re living abroad or moving between countries, online sessions make it easier to have consistent support wherever you are.
