ENGLISH-SPEAKING IFS THERAPY · ONLINE ACROSS SWEDEN, THE UK, EUROPE & ASIA
Online IFS Therapy for Stress and Burnout
For capable, conscientious people who have been running on empty for too long, and suspect rest alone won’t fix it.
You’ve been holding it together for a long time.
From the outside, you’re still functioning. You go to work, answer messages and keep your commitments. Inside, it’s taking everything you have, and there’s less and less left over.
Maybe you’ve already taken time off, changed jobs or cut back, and the exhaustion followed you anyway.
You might recognise some of this:
You wake up tired, and the weekend is over before you’ve recovered from the week.
Small tasks feel huge, and things you used to enjoy feel flat or far away.
Your mind won’t switch off, even when your body is desperate to stop.
You snap at people you love, then feel guilty for having so little patience.
Resting makes you restless or anxious, as if something bad will happen if you stop.
You keep waiting to “bounce back”, and part of you wonders why you can’t.
None of this means you’re weak or lazy. Burnout is usually what happens when parts of you have been working overtime, for years, to keep everything going.
You don’t need to be at breaking point.
Some clients come to me in full burnout. Others are under chronic stress and can feel where it’s heading, or are recovering and want to understand how they got there, so it doesn’t happen again. Wherever you are, you’re welcome.
If you’re highly sensitive or neurodivergent, burnout often looks different and lasts longer, shaped by years of masking, sensory overload and adapting to environments that weren’t built for you. You can read more on my Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy page.
This is a good fit if you:
have burned out before, or feel you never fully recovered
are tired of looking “fine” while feeling depleted inside
want to understand why you keep pushing past your limits, not just learn to cope
want to rebuild your life around your actual energy, needs and values
The parts of you carrying the load
In IFS (Internal Family Systems), we see the mind as a family of parts, each with its own job. In burnout, nearly all of them are tired, and each one is doing what it believes will help.
Parts that keep things running. They plan, prepare, anticipate everyone’s needs and hold it all together. Often they took on this role early, when being capable or easy to be around felt like the safest option.
Parts that step in when it’s too much. Exhaustion, numbness, irritability, the urge to hide away. These parts are often trying to get you the pause no one else would give you.
Parts that hold what’s underneath. Younger parts carrying grief, loneliness or the sense of never quite being enough. Much of the effort above exists to keep these feelings at a distance.
How I approach it. I don’t start with the exhaustion or with changing your habits. I start by getting to know the parts that are working hardest and finding out what they need before they can step back. Only with their permission do we turn towards what they’re protecting. As those younger parts are cared for, the parts that keep things running often find they no longer need to work so hard, and there’s more room for your own calm, clear energy, what IFS calls Self. Along the way, you’ll build skills and strategies for recognising the parts that drive you towards burnout and working with them in everyday life, so you can protect your energy before you hit empty again.
Together, we can:
Understand shutdown, numbness and exhaustion as protection, not failure.
Explore why rest feels unsafe, and make it possible to stop without guilt.
Heal the experiences that tied your worth to productivity.
Rebuild a rhythm of work and rest that fits your energy, rather than everyone else’s expectations.
Common stress and burnout patterns I work with
Burnout rarely comes from one thing. It’s usually a mix of outer demands and inner pressure.
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Long hours, high standards and a job that never feels finished.
We’ll get to know the parts that can’t log off, and what they’re working so hard to prevent.
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The voice that says it’s never good enough and you should be doing more.
We’ll explore what this critic is protecting you from, so it can loosen its grip.
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Being the reliable one for everyone, at work and at home, until nothing is left for you.
We’ll find out what these parts fear would happen if you put your own needs first.
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Masking, sensory overload and years of adapting to a world that doesn’t fit how you work.
We’ll separate how you’re wired from the strategies you learned to get by, and lighten the load.
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Brain fog, flatness and a body that simply won’t keep going.
We’ll treat shutdown as a protector to understand, not a problem to override.
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You’ve stepped back, but you’re afraid of ending up here again.
We’ll look at the patterns that led you here, so you can return to life on new terms.
Therapy that doesn’t ask you to push harder
Many of my clients have already tried time off, mindfulness apps, coaching or a new job, and still feel stuck. What’s often missing is the emotional layer: the parts that are terrified to slow down, that carry shame, or that equate your worth with your output.
No fixing, no forcing. You won’t be asked to push through your burnout or override it. Instead, we’ll listen to what it’s trying to tell you.
Your pace, your energy. If you arrive exhausted, that’s where we start. Sessions can be slow and gentle, and rest is allowed here too.
Beyond strategies. We look at why the boundaries and routines you know you need are so hard to keep, not just what they should be.
Online, from wherever you are. We meet on Zoom, so you can join from home without adding a commute to an already full week.
Why I work with burnout
I’ve burned out twice myself. Both times, rest helped my body recover, but it was getting to know the parts driving me that changed what happened next. I’m neurodivergent, and many of my clients are neurodivergent and have dealt with burnout on and off in their lives. I work in English, online, with adults across Sweden, the UK, Europe and Asia.
How to get started with therapy
Starting therapy can feel like a big step. Here’s what the process looks like, so you know what to expect.
1. Get in touch
Fill in the contact form with a few lines about what’s bringing you to therapy. You don’t need to have the right words for it; a rough sense is enough. I’ll reply by email sharing my availability and sending you a link to book your initial meeting with me.
2. Meet for a first session
We’ll meet online on Zoom for our first session. This is a chance for you to tell me a bit more about what you’re looking for, ask any questions about IFS or how I work, and get a feel for whether we’re a good fit.
We may spend the first session just talking, or we might also start with some IFS work and get to know a part of you that you’ve been curious about. There’s no commitment to continue.
3. Begin weekly sessions
If we feel it’s right to work together, we’ll find a regular day and time for weekly sessions. Having a set weekly time gives the work a steady rhythm and gives you a reliable space that’s yours.
FAQs
Some common questions about therapy for stress and burnout.
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No. Some clients are in full burnout, others are under chronic stress or in recovery. If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed or stuck in cycles of overfunctioning and collapse, this work can help.
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Often because the problem was never a lack of strategies. If parts of you believe slowing down is dangerous, they’ll override even the best plan. IFS works with those parts directly, so change has a chance to last.
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Yes. We’ll look at pacing, boundaries and what needs to change, while working with the parts that make those changes hard. As those parts soften, practical changes tend to stick.
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It’s a good idea. Burnout can overlap with depression and with physical issues such as thyroid problems or anaemia, and a doctor can also support you if you need time off work. Therapy works well alongside medical care.
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Yes. I work online in English with adults in Sweden, the UK, across Europe and in Asia.
