Therapy for Relationship Anxiety & ROCD
You’re in a relationship, maybe even a good one, but your mind won’t stop spinning. One moment you’re sure, the next you're wondering if you're making a mistake. You might feel waves of panic, disconnection, or dread, and then guilt for even having those feelings.
Relationship anxiety and ROCD (Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) can make it incredibly hard to feel safe and grounded in love. Even when nothing is "wrong", it can feel like everything is wrong on the inside.
If any of this resonates, you’re not alone, and you don’t have to keep navigating it by yourself.
WHAT RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY OR ROCD MIGHT LOOK LIKE
Constantly wondering, "Is this the right person for me?" or “Do I really love them?”
Fear that you’re settling, or missing out on something better
Analysing every feeling or behaviour – yours or theirs
Scanning for cues and signs that you love your partner
Googling for reassurance, asking friends, or checking social media for signs
Getting stuck in obsessive loops about your partner's flaws, your own flaws, or the future
WHAT THERAPY CAN OFFER
Relationship anxiety doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It often means there are parts of you that are on high alert, trying to keep you from being hurt, making a mistake, or feeling trapped.
Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, we gently help the parts of you that are working hard to manage anxiety or OCD loops.
With IFS, we’re able to create a space to truly understand, be with, and care for the parts driving your anxiety rather than just managing symptoms on the surface. You can learn more about IFS here.
This is a space where you can:
Feel less overwhelmed by the urgency to figure things out
Understand why these fears feel so loud, and where they come from
Build trust in your own system, instead of outsourcing clarity to the internet or other people
Work with inner polarisations (parts that want to stay vs. leave)
Begin to relate to your partner from your Self, not just from fear
THIS MIGHT BE RIGHT FOR YOU IF:
You’re tired of not knowing whether your doubt is a red flag or anxiety
You feel like no answer ever feels satisfying for long
You’ve tried to logic your way out of it, but the fear always comes back
You want to stop spiralling and start connecting more deeply – with yourself and others
WHAT MAKES MY APPROACH DIFFERENT
Many of my clients have done therapy before, sometimes years of it. IFS offers something new. It helps you go beyond surface-level coping tools and into the internal dynamics driving your anxiety.
If you’re dealing with OCD, IFS therapy offers a way to get to know the parts of you that are working hard to manage OCD symptoms. With IFS, we can also help anxious and fearful parts of you that often are underneath the looping thoughts and constant analysis.
IFS can help you learn to stay with yourself through uncertainty, anxiety and fear so you can make choices from clarity instead of panic.
I work with people in Sweden, the UK, the Nordics and Asia who identify as sensitive, neurodivergent, introspective, or simply wired a little differently.
If that’s you, you’ll probably feel at home here.
READY TO START?
If you're ready to understand your relationship anxiety without shame or urgency – and want support that goes deeper than reassurance – I’d love to hear from you.
FAQs
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Yes, absolutely. You don’t need a diagnosis to begin. Many people come to therapy unsure whether their doubts are "normal," anxiety-driven, or part of something like ROCD. We’ll take the time to explore what’s going on in your system, without needing to label it right away. Whether you’re dealing with obsessive thoughts or just feel overwhelmed in your relationship, this work can support you in making sense of what you're experiencing.
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Yes, but we won’t force the decision. The focus is on building inner clarity and reducing the panic that clouds your thinking. With time, your path usually becomes more apparent.
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That’s actually very common. Therapy can help uncover and help the deeper parts that carry fear, longing, or pain from past experiences, so you’re not repeating the same cycle.
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Yes. I work with clients across the spectrum of gender, orientation, and relationship structures, and have extensive experience working with clients in non-monogamous relationships.
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Absolutely. Many of my clients are neurodivergent (ADHD, autistic, highly sensitive persons), and therapy is tailored to your unique nervous system and processing style.
