ENGLISH-SPEAKING IFS THERAPY · ONLINE ACROSS SWEDEN, THE UK, EUROPE & ASIA
Online IFS Therapy for Autistic Adults
Support for the impact of growing up autistic in a world that kept asking you to be someone else.
Being autistic isn’t the problem. Being misread for years is.
Maybe you were the “odd” one at school, or the child who was “so mature” and never caused trouble. Maybe you only realised you might be autistic as an adult, and suddenly a lot of your life made sense.
Either way, you’ve probably spent years being corrected, misunderstood or told you were too much, too blunt, too rigid or too sensitive. Over time, that leaves its mark:
You learned to watch yourself from the outside, checking your face, your tone and your words.
You pushed through noise, crowds and social plans because saying no felt like failing.
You may have had therapy that tried to make you more “normal” rather than understand you.
Somewhere along the way, you started believing there was something wrong with you.
Therapy can be a place where you don’t have to translate yourself.
You don’t need a diagnosis to be welcome here.
It’s okay if you self-identify as autistic, or if you’re still wondering. Assessments can be hard to access, expensive or slow, and many adults never get one.
You might find that some parts of the autistic experience really resonate, while others don’t fit you at all. That’s completely fine. Autistic people are as different from each other as anyone else.
I’m not interested in fitting you into a description. I want to get to know you as an individual: how you think, what you need, and what has been hard.
How IFS can help
IFS doesn’t try to make you less autistic. It works with the parts of you that formed in response to being treated differently: the ones that mask, brace for criticism, push through overload or keep you away from people altogether. Those parts usually started out protecting you. In therapy, we get to know them, understand what they’re afraid of, and help them carry less.
Together, we can:
Separate your autistic wiring from the strategies you learned to survive, so you can choose which ones still serve you.
Work with the parts that mask, so they don’t have to be “on” all the time.
Gently process the impact of exclusion, bullying or being misunderstood.
Understand your burnout, shutdowns or meltdowns without shame.
Build a life around your actual needs, not the ones you were told you should have.
Common issues I work on with autistic clients
Studies have found that autistic people struggle more with both anxiety and depression.
This isn’t because being autistic is a disorder. Much of it comes from the strain of living in a world that doesn’t fit you.
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Constant scanning, rehearsing and bracing for the unexpected can keep your system on high alert.
We’ll get to know the parts that are working so hard to keep you safe, and help them find some rest.
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Years of being told you’re wrong in small ways can add up to a heavy sense that you don’t belong.
We’ll meet the parts that carry those beliefs and help them put some of it down.
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Long-term exhaustion, lower tolerance for sensory input and losing skills you normally rely on, often after years of masking.
We’ll work with the parts that push you past your limits, so recovery becomes possible.
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OCD is more common among autistic people. It can be hard to tell apart from the routines and interests that help you feel regulated.
We’ll get curious about what’s a comfort and what’s driven by fear.
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Bullying, exclusion and being pressured to change who you are can leave lasting wounds, even without one big event.
We’ll go at your pace, building trust with the parts that still carry this.
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You might want connection but find it draining, or feel lonely even with people around you.
We’ll explore what connection looks like on your terms.
If you’ve tried IFS and it didn’t quite fit
Some autistic people come to me after IFS that left them feeling more broken, not less. Maybe your normal way of being was labelled an analytical part that needed to step back. Maybe you were made to feel you weren’t compassionate enough towards your parts, or that you just hadn’t found your Self yet.
I don’t believe everything is a part. Some things are simply how you’re wired: how you process information, what you notice, what drains you and what restores you. Those don’t need to be unblended or healed.
I also think Self, our core essence when we’re not blended with parts, looks different in different people. For me, it shows up as clarity, connection and calm. I’m compassionate, but compassion isn’t what I naturally lead with, like some people do. Your Self energy may show up differently from mine, or from other people’s, and that’s not a sign you’re doing it wrong.
Together, we can explore:
What is a part, and what is simply your unique wiring?
What can shift, and what can we work with as it is?
What does Self energy feel like for you?
What does it feel like when you’re not blended with a part?
How to get started with therapy
Starting therapy can feel like a big step. Here's what the process looks like, so you know what to expect.
1. Get in touch
Fill in the contact form with a few lines about what's bringing you to therapy. You don't need to have the right words for it; a rough sense is enough. I'll reply by email sharing my availability and sending you a link to book your initial meeting with me.
2. Meet for a first session
We'll meet online on Zoom for our first session. This is a chance for you to tell me a bit more about what you're looking for, ask any questions about IFS or how I work, and get a feel for whether we're a good fit.
We may spend the first session just talking, or we might also start with some IFS work and get to know a part of you that you've been curious about. There's no commitment to continue.
3. Begin weekly sessions
If we feel it's right to work together, we'll find a regular day and time for weekly sessions. Having a set weekly time gives the work a steady rhythm and gives you a reliable space that's yours.
FAQs
Some common questions from autistic adults considering IFS.
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Yes. Tell me what helps, whether that’s clear explanations, a predictable structure, or time to think before you answer. We’ll adjust as we go.
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Insight on its own often isn’t enough. IFS works with the parts that protect you, rather than just talking about them.
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No. We start with what feels manageable and only go deeper when you’re ready.
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That is not a problem. Some autistic people don’t experience parts as images, and that’s fine. Parts can show up spatially, or as body sensations or as simply a sense of knowing. See my post Can I Do IFS If I Have Aphantasia?
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Yes. I work online, in English, with clients in Sweden, the UK, the rest of Europe and Asia.
